Jay Samit Quotes

The strengths and failings of a relationship depend entirely on your ability to talk about your feelings.

People love to take sides, but it's not effective. It's not really an effective way of communicating something, because you're either already part of the side or you're going to feel attacked and get defensive.

In my experience, yelling at people that they are wrong and disgusting rarely wins the argument, nor changes point of view.

My boyfriend and I have finally learned how to embrace confrontation as something that will only help us as a couple.

My wife and I do not argue. We communicate. We talk. But we've never fought in our entire relationship.

If something happens, you have to realize that you can't just yell at people all the time.

When you have an intense game, you're going to have arguments. I have no problem with it. I think it's healthy.

For there to be communication within a couple, it is enough for there to be only one person who communicates or who really wants to communicate. Even though a couple consists of two people, if one of the people in a couple puts all their effort into moving a couple along they will move along.

At home, a man is entitled to raise his voice maybe once a year, if something really gets under his skin. At work, it's different. I raise my voice all the time. Not out of malice, but to get things right. It's never personal.

I think we learn the most from imperfect relationships - things like forgiveness and compassion.

And I think if you look at any relationship, for the relationship to be productive and to move forward and to grow, sometimes things have to be said that one person or the other person is not going to like to hear.

I don’t allow my staff to criticize each other…. Evan Rosalyn … She knows that nothing can make me madder then for her to criticize staff.

I think competitiveness is taken in a different way by different people. I'm not a yeller and a screamer, a jumper and a pusher.

Before you decide to have an argument, think about what you really want to accomplish. Do you just want to let your feelings out, or is there a point you are trying to make? What is it?

I'm willing to sit down with anybody and have constructive criticism.

Members of great teams confront each other when they see something that isn't serving the team.

It's important to learn how to have conversations with other people where it's not debating but discussing.

It is important that it - sometimes there are clashes between team-mates. We need each other to tell the truth, and this is not always a positive.

Negotiation is empathy. It's almost trite to say that if you can't put yourself in the seat of the other person you're speaking with, you're not going to do well. It's not about being a bully, not about making offers people can't refuse.

All families have disagreements, but good often comes of it if they are constructive discussions.

On great teams - the kind where people trust each other, engage in open conflict, and then commit to decisions - team members have the courage and confidence to confront one another when they see something that isn't serving the team.

When team members trust each other and know that everyone is capable of admitting when they're wrong, then conflict becomes nothing more than the pursuit of truth or the best possible answer.

Consistent positive interactions increase levels of trust in the relationship, so that when conflict arises, there are enough 'reserves' in place to make a withdrawal, but still leave the relationship in a net-positive place.

There is a way to disagree with someone, but it doesn't have to be threatening.

What I most hope is that Kelsey and I can improve our communications and truly co-parent our two wonderful children.