Nicholas Sparks Quotes

Men who have been raised violently have every reason to believe it is appropriate for them to control others through violence; they feel no compunction over being violent to women, children, and one another.

I think if you're going to abuse someone, you really have to convince them of two things. First, you have to normalise what you're doing, convince them that it's not that bad. And the second thing is to convince them that they deserve it in some way.

Violence against women in all its forms is a human rights violation. It's not something that any culture, religion or tradition propagates.

I'm very disturbed by violence against women when it is violence.

Any woman who stays with her abuser beyond the first incident is complicitous with him.

Violence against women is fundamentally about power.

Have I ever abused a woman? Never.

An abusive relationship should be easy to identify though often one of the most difficult to end.

That's what tyrants do, I guess. They make you covet their attention; they make you confuse attention for mercy.

She was in a terrible marriage and she couldn't talk to anyone. He used to hit her, and in the beginning she told him that if it ever happened again, she would leave him. He swore that it wouldn't and she believed him. But it only got worse after that, like when his dinner was cold, or when she mentioned that she'd visited with one of the neighbors who was walking by with his dog. She just chatted with him, but that night, her husband threw her into a mirror.

Do you know what happened the last time I loved someone?” Growled against my skin with such tempered violence that my shiver turned into a shudder. I nodded. “No you don’t.” Another lethal growl. “You only know how she died. Let me tell you how she lived— in fear. My actions horrified her, as they horrify you. My enemies exploited her, as they exploit you, so it was more than an advancing army that made her throw herself from our roof. It was me.

[Domestic violence is] a carefully laid physical, financial and psychological trap.

Seduction is often difficult to distinguish from rape. In seduction, the rapist often bothers to buy a bottle of wine.

I call the discourse of power any discourse that engenders blame, hence guilt, in its recipient.

There are endless new variations on how to hurt a woman physically, emotionally, financially, and socially.

Abuse is the means in which violence retards love.

My husband worked on Wall Street and was an Ivy League graduate as well. In our world, we were the last couple you'd imagine enmeshed in domestic violence.

Family violence is a criminal act; perpetrators, while often former victims themselves, need to accept culpability.

Women can stand a beating except when it is with their own weapons.

The violence betwen women is unbelievable. Women try to make each other crawl so that their knees are bleeding.

Anyone with a grain of sense would know that if I punched my wife I would rip her head off. It's all lies. I have never laid a finger on her.

As far as I'm concerned, love means fighting, big fat lies, and a couple of slaps across the face.

With women, I've got a long bamboo pole with a leather loop on the end. I slip the loop around their necks so they can't get away or come too close. Like catching snakes.

Domestic abuse happens only in intimate, interdependent, long-term relationships - in other words, in families - the last place we would want or expect to find violence.

Dr. Flint had sworn that he would make me suffer, to my last day, for this new crime against him, as he called it; and as long as he had me in his power he kept his word.