Whenever you think something or some person is ruining your life, it's you. A victimization mentality is so debilitating.
The main trouble with despair is that it is self-fulfilling.
The only thing I hate worse than prophecy is self-fulfilling prophecy
Consistent failure to attain goals throughout life results in defeatism, low self-esteem or depression.
It's been said to me that I'm self-destructive because I'll walk away from things that are good.
One way to eliminate self negating thoughts and behavior is by gaining more understanding through realizing that you cannot force others to see that what you feel is real.
