Compassionate Discipline Quotes

What's the difference between tough love and acting like a jerk?

You can forgive somebody and still believe they need a consequence.

All the punishment in the world will not reform a man, unless he knows that he who inflicts it upon him does it for the sake of reformation, and really and truly loves him, and has his good at heart. Punishment inflicted for gratifying the appetite makes man afraid but debases him.

That kind of discipline whose pungent severity is in the manifestations of paternal love, compassion, and tenderness is the most sure of its object.

Don't punish people who repent; heal them. I don't believe that private sin requires public rebuke or removal from office if repentance is taking place. However, when no evidence of true repentance exists, then discipline is in order.

Love, and do what you will. If you are silent, be silent for love; or if you cry out, cry out for love. If you chastise, chastise for love; if you spare, spare for love.

Tough love is exactly what it sounds like.

Tough love - I'm kind of weary of that. I don't think it's so effective.

Until I read Neill's book, 'Summerhill,' I thought there were only two ways to bring up children, either with authoritarian discipline or with permissiveness. Either way, hopefully, applied with love. Now I know there is a third way: teaching a child self*regulation, not by coercion or by abandoning discipline, but by freedom with responsibility.

Heaven often smites in mercy, even when the blow is severest.

I think my own thinking is harsher than my mom's discipline.

Children need directing and teaching what is right in a kind, affectionate manner. How often we see parents demand obedience, good behavior, kind words, pleasant looks, a sweet voice and a bright eye from a child or children when they themselves are full of bitterness and scolding! How inconsistent and unreasonable this is!

When you consent, consent cordially; when you refuse, refuse finally; when you punish, punish good-naturedly; commend often, never scold

Tough love is the hardest to give.

I've learned so much from being a mom about the kind of person I want to be, the kind of woman I want to be. Motherhood has taught me mindfulness. If you just parent on instinct, you'll screw your kid up for life. You have to be so mindful.

You do have to love your kids enough to let them hate you. But it's the disease that's hating you, not them.

I think if we could raise one generation of kids without violence and shaming, we don't know what might be possible.

The child who has not been disciplined with love by his little world will be disciplined, generally without love, by the big world.