Dalai Lama Quotes

Anger, and the self-righteousness that is both the cause and consequence of anger, tends to be easier on the psyche than personal responsibility.

I don't think any one person is the cause of all of someone else's problems.

I might be in an airport, late or angry with a ticket person, and I'm going to sort of check myself, because part of me is seen as Eric Camden. We all need as much help as we can get. It's a role model to me as much as to anybody else.

If somebody pisses me off and I understand it ain't personal then I'll go to another place and I'll meditate.

Part of being a man is learning to take responsibility for your successes and for your failures. You can't go blaming others or being jealous. Seeing somebody else's success as your failure is a cancerous way to live.

Where I once constantly lost my temper, I found myself arriving at a crisis and experiencing peace.

If you're playing the character, you could say to yourself in 16 different ways, What if that didn't bother me? What if I knew exactly what he was talking about? What if I didn't get excited?

You can't be responsible for the way people respond to you. You're only responsible for yourself.

I've never had a teenage rebellion; I'm not that type of person. I always work out my problems in a conscientious way.

It is wise to direct your anger towards problems - not people; to focus your energies on answers - not excuses.

I don't think I get that upset over things.

I'm a grown man. I don't point fingers.

I'm not the kind of guy who gets defensive after something goes wrong.

My job is to show my clients that their anger is rarely someone else's fault. It's their flaw.

At the end of the day, all I can do is control me and what comes out of my mouth.

The problem is not what other people think, do or say; it is your reaction.

At the same time I know that it’s not really their fault, at least not completely. I did my part too. I did it on a hundred different days and in a thousand different ways, and I know it. But this makes the anger worse, not better.

It's irrelevant to me if other people know who I am. I'm just, I'm really happy. It calms me down, too. If you're on top of an oilrig, fighting with politicians, or whatever - you need a bit of wisdom to realize that you're not always right, or that you're not always being reasonable, or you're not always listening.

When there is pain, the animal instinct is 'fight or flight' (i.e., to either strike back or run away) - reflect instead. When you can calm yourself down, thinking about the dilemma that is causing you pain will bring you to a higher level and enlighten you, leading to progress.

Each of us needs to eliminate our anger, fear and greed. The roots of social conflicts and political tensions are in personal anger, fear and greed.

I started teaching myself, taking a breath or a moment that's not overreacting or having an explosion. It made me such a better person. Let alone a better mother, but also just a better human.

The first lesson of life is to burn our own smoke; that is, not to inflict on outsiders our personal sorrows and petty morbidness, not to keep thinking of ourselves as exceptional cases.

Knowing that anger makes me ugly, I smile instead. I return to myself and meditate on love.

Many of us have a need to be right. We then set out to make ourselves right by making someone else wrong. We must get right with ourselves. Once we do, we will have so much to do, we will not have time to keep track of who is wrong.

it is hard for anyone who is dissatisfied not to blame some one else, and especially the person nearest of all to him, for the ground of his dissatisfaction.