Anthony de Mello Quotes

I want to be in a better position than what I was yesterday. The only way that can happen is by eliminating any negative ill will or feelings toward anyone.

I'm jealous. I'm mad. I feel bad. But one day, I woke up and I thought, you know what? This is wearing me out. And I'm not getting anywhere. So, I decided that even though I did not have a good beginning, I made a decision that I was going to let go of what lies behind and I was going to have a great finish.

Let's not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember "Life is too short to be little".

At the end of the day, the key to happiness is taking ultimate responsibility for your reactions to all of your experiences - the good and the chaotic.

It takes a big person to avoid small worries.

I knew that my heart and mind would always be tempted to feel anger--to find blame and hate. But I resolved that when the negative feelings came upon me, I wouldn't wait for them to grow or fester. I would always turn immediately to the Source of all true power: I would turn to God and let His love and forgiveness protect and save me.

Forgiveness is a CHOICE, not a feeling.

Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.

We plant seeds that will flower as results in our lives, so best to remove the weeds of anger, avarice, envy and doubt, that peace and abundance may manifest for all.

Though I can't change what happened, I can choose how to react. And I don't want to spend the rest of my life being bitter and locked up.

There's no regret. You can't regret. I mean, I've felt regret but I've also refused to allow regret to sow a seed and live in me because I don't believe it. You feel it, it's like guilt, it's like jealousy, it's like all those horrible things. You've just got to snip them and get them out, because they're no good.

I just refuse to worry or get upset or be fearful. It doesn't do one particle of good.

You are precisely as big as what you love and precisely as small as what you allow to annoy you.

I'm not going to whine or get depressed. Who's going to feel sorry for me? Nobody.

Have you recently been through a challenge, disappointment, break up or disloyalty with somebody in your life? If so, it's important after you've been hurt, to take some time to think like a lion tamer about your pain, so you can tame the possibility of more negativity coming back to bite you again!

You get successful for the person that you are, not for the way you look. If you feel good, you can conquer the world, so you need to feel right inside.

The biggest lesson I’ve learned is, “It’s okay.” It’s okay for me to be kind to myself. It’s okay to be wrong. It’s okay to get mad. It’s ok to be flawed. It’s okay to be happy. It’s okay to move on.

I know who I am. And after all these years, there's a victory in that.

Learning from our mistakes is critical for improving, but even I don't have patience for ranking my regrets. Regret is a negative emotion that inhibits the optimism required to take on new challenges. You risk living in an alternative universe, where if only you had done this or that differently, things would be better. That's a poor substitute for making your actual life better, or improving the lives of others. Regret briefly, analyze and understand, and then move on, improving the only life you have.

You can either give in to negative feelings or fight them, and I'm of the belief that you should fight them.

The lessons we learn from patience will cultivate our character, lift our lives, and heighten our happiness.

Just because you had every right to feel sorry for yourself didn't mean you ever took the opportunity to do so.

In life, we will always encounter difficult people. Don't allow them to frustrate you or steal your joy.

[S]omething inside us, the feeling of resentment, the feeling that wants to get one's own back, must be simply killed. I do not mean that anyone can decide this moment that he will never feel it anymore. That is not how things happen. I mean that every time it bobs its head up, day after day, year after year, all our lives long, we must hit it on the head. It is hard work, but the attempt is not impossible.

Let no man pull you so low as to hate him.