Melody Beattie Quotes

My limits will be better marked. Both the limits I will set, and my own limits.

I don't go to clubs and stuff like that, so I don't have to put up with it in there. And normally, because obviously I could hurt somebody, and if I look at it that way, I have to back off.

I don't like saying 'no' to people, and I'm going to have to learn how to say 'no' more.

Determine to listen to nothing that is bad; do not take up the tomahawk …. Do not meddle with anything that does not belong to you, but mind your own business and cultivate the ground …

I think you create your own boundaries, and you work within them.

Ninety percent of all human wisdom is the ability to mind your own business.

Their issues are not your issues.

...Nothing that your partner does is personal. Your partner is dealing with her own garbage. If you don't take it personally, it will be so easy for you to have a wonderful relationship with your partner

However much you love somebody, you should always keep a part of yourself to yourself. Never give it all. You can never be yourself otherwise.

I know I've had an attitude that can explode, but I'm trying my best to not step out of bounds.

It's harder to scream at someone you just chatted with at lunch. I mean, if you're a superb actor, you might be able to do that, but I couldn't do it.

I see something that I don't like, I prefer not to participate and say, 'Look, I'll leave you to it, I wish you the best, a lot of luck and I support you, but I don't want to be there.'

I eliminated stress by eliminating people that I don't enjoy working with.

My whole career, I got a lot of credit for not taking punches.

I'm all about respect and I never get outside myself as far as calling people out.

I don't mess with Mase no more, because me, personally, I just go by a different standard than people.

I can't control what everyone else does, I can't control anybody else's behavior, but I can control mine.

I don't have tiffs with people. I only mind my business, but whatever interferes my freedom of expression, I have always voiced.

The idea of self-government is foreign to Americans. ... Self-government is a form of self-control, self-limitation. It goes against our whole grain. We're supposed to go after what we want, not question whether we really need it.

Don't take anything personally. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. Their point of view and opinion come from all the programming they received growing up. When you take things personally, you feel offended and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflict. You make something big out of something so little because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong.

Sometimes I wonder which is worse - confrontational people who are afraid of caring or caring people who are afraid of confrontation.

Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.

As a man and as a sports figure, you have to set limits and set boundaries on what can and cannot happen. Once you do that, your family will start to respect you. 'OK, I get it, he's all about football and handling his business,' and that's what I've done. In the past, when I was a young man - a younger man - it was hard for me to say no. Since I'm older, wiser, I know how to handle people, know how to say no, know when something is right and something wrong. I use proper judgment.

My mom taught me a lot. A lot about minding your own business and leaving other people's business alone. And let them think what they want.

One of the most important rules for me is: Don't ever defend myself. If we could put this one principle into practice, how much more simple life would be.