Derek Cianfrance Quotes

I think that sharing experiences with a person is very valuable, because it allows you to have a bond to become closer.

I try to make really close bonds with people.

Intimacy doesn't have all that much to do with backseats of cars. Real intimacy is brushing your teeth together.

I think we're always looking for an excuse to connect.

Can we ever really know anyone well? Let's just say we often found ourselves in each other's company and neither of us minded.

I like living with a character for a really long time and what can open up with that.

A lot of the things that we do in life are to find connection.

Family is just the people you care about. We can bond with people that we have nothing in common with, even if it's just for a moment.

I think that human beings are often looking for a reason to relate.

We long to find someone who has been where we've been, who shares our fragile places, who sees our sunsets with the same shades of blue. Soul mates. They somehow validate the depth of our experiences.

I get very close to people when I'm shooting them. We would go and shoot a scene with Lucy, and I would spend the whole time telling her about Rob. Then I would go shoot a scene with Rob and tell him all about Lucy. Eventually they wanted to know each other. These are two people who would never have overlapped in any other way or context. We brought to the garden at Rob's office and just sat and watched what unfolded. I remember weeping behind the camera, because I was so moved by the way they connected.

In a relationship when things are really great you don't need to say anything and just enjoy the other person. Sometimes with a couple, it gets dark and you don't know what to say and that silence can last all day. Other times you don't want to stop talking because you don't want to lose one another.

Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you.

Part of the fun of life is interacting with people and not knowing what the truth is inside. Letting them reveal that to you is what binds you to people.

I loved playing Shaun, he's not that different from me.

There is a scarcity of friendship, but not of friends.

Stories can encourage us and embolden us to face ourselves and to feel. Stories can make us feel less alone. If we're reading a story that moves us, we can feel that emotion that I feel towards my father or mother or girlfriend. So they can give us late-night company.

You never really meet a human being until you live with them or know them for awhile, so this is my clown and they understand that and so these interviews don't bother them.

I have found that no exertion of the legs can bring two minds much nearer to one another.

I think most people would struggle to define their whole relationship with just one label - like: my girlfriend, boyfriend, brother, sister, confidantes, whatever - but in those moments, there's true joy in each other.

I'm interested in what bonds people together. You know, what brings us together in good ways? And there's not a lot known about that.

You hear about quality time a lot but I really think that quantity time with a person is really what strengthens a relationship. That's when you really get to know somebody. You get to know their strengths and their weaknesses and that brings you closer. That's what 'Time Is Love' is all about.

I think romance is friendship and attraction sort of meeting together and that does influence what I'm writing a lot. I try to establish the attraction, obviously, but I also think it's important to show the characters having actual conversations about things other than their feelings for each other - and to develop their friendship on the page.

Sometimes people just like being around each other, and good things come out of that.

We all need somebody to talk to. It would be good if we talked... not just pitter-patter, but real talk. We shouldn't be so afraid, because most people really like this contact; that you show you are vulnerable makes them free to be vulnerable.