Sarah Pinborough Quotes

No man wants to accept they could be getting used for money. But it's OK for them to let us know that they use us?

When you abuse someone, you limit their perspective, and you trap them in your view of them or your view of the world.

If you chose to be with an abusive man, a powerful, abusive man, it reflects something about who you are and what you want for yourself.

Abuse is the means in which violence retards love.

People that were in my life for a long time turned sinister and tried to control me, and all kinds of weird stuff happened. But there was no conscience involved; that threw me more than anything.

If I ever loved a woman, the more I loved her, the more I wanted to hurt her. Frida was only the most obvious victim of this disgusting trait.

The only way to stop gaslighting is to shine the light of reality onto a situation. That makes it imperative for the perpetrator to keep victims in the dark.

I will not be a punching bag as part of anyone's defense strategy.

People who are in abusive relationships often don't realise it, but it slowly seems to build until you're trapped.

I don't want to be a punching bag.

The getting out part [of advise] may well be true. Because if you have tried the tender love thing... typically the abuser is not going to change until they are pushed in a corner.

I did bully somebody. I was insecure.

I personally always find something really scary about watching little girls learning to manipulate their dads by baby talking. Then they grow up and use the same technique on their boyfriends or husbands. That scares me because it's just so sick on so many levels.

Pity is just another form of abuse.

My parents had this relationship that was really terrifying. I mean, the level of hatred that they had, and the level of physical abuse - my mother would beat up my father, basically - and I think I was drawn to images on television that were bright and reflective.

I'd been around women who put me down, made me feel bad, or said things to fuel my insecurity.

It was my first big relationship and it was just very abusive. I wouldn't give him the credit of naming him, if he ever reads this. But he was older, in the music business - or so he said.

In my opinion, all relationships between people have some sort of violence, and it is central.

I've had just about everything punched. I've had things grabbed that just shouldn't be grapped.

I'm a long way from Ike Turner.

I am very sad for men and women trapped in any relationship where there is cruelty, dominance, inequity. I long for the liberation of all people.

As far as I'm concerned, love means fighting, big fat lies, and a couple of slaps across the face.

He was using me. When he cast me in Sideways I was nothing but a vessel.

See what I have to put up with every night?

Domestic abuse happens only in intimate, interdependent, long-term relationships - in other words, in families - the last place we would want or expect to find violence.