Deborah Tannen Quotes

Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.

I don't know if you're married, but sometimes there are times where one is really together with their partner. And then there are times when you're both just in your own thing, but you're there together.

My missus knows to leave me alone.

It's very different than it use to be. I think everybody has a lot more experience in how to be in a relationship - whether it's a marriage or a significant other or a business or a friend.

I have an urge to communicate. I think I'm a change from what it would be like dating a normal guy who doesn't talk too much.

When I was young, I liked romance. But to me, romance is the opposite of domestic life. I just don't want anyone in the apartment, not for longer than a few hours.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love.

In any relationship, after the first year is over, you can't help but want your own space.

In a relationship when things are really great you don't need to say anything and just enjoy the other person. Sometimes with a couple, it gets dark and you don't know what to say and that silence can last all day. Other times you don't want to stop talking because you don't want to lose one another.

I think love has something to do with allowing a person you claim to love to enter a larger arena than the one you create for them.

Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence. To survive in the world, we have to act in concert with others, but to survive as ourselves, rather than simply as cogs in a wheel, we have to act alone.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Games are a compromise between intimacy and keeping intimacy away.

I think as humans we do want to control our relationships, and you can't. It's probably better that you can't. That wouldn't be a real relationship, and we'd never learn and grow.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

For marriage to be a success, every woman and every man should have her and his own bathroom. The end.

I talk to my friends and, you know, they all seem to get relationships that aren't right. You kind of want someone who is not at your beck and call but loves the idea of being in a relationship and what that entails.

The reason that lovers never weary each other is because they are always talking about themselves.

My husband and I get along great. We're both introverts, and it's hard to make new friends.

Constant togetherness is fine - but only for Siamese twins.

Relationships in general make people a bit nervous. It's about trust. Do I trust you enough to go there?

You know, it's possible for two humans to be in a relationship without there needing to be some public reason for that relationship.

I have a lady, she's a great lady. I love her a lot, she loves me. We're on the same page. Whenever that day happens when we're not on the same page we'll move forward with it. We're interested in having our lives be our lives right now and not a third person's vis-a-vis marriage and whatever that means.

Ideally, people find mates with whom they can express both their masculine and feminine sides.

It's easy to get wrapped up in sharing everyday life with a partner. It's fun to get lost in love and romance. It's the best. But holding on to yourself while doing that is the most important thing.