Charles Murray Quotes

We don't need a psychologist with the Dutch team; we are grown-up men. The ones who have a problem with other players or the manager should tell them face-to-face. That is the only psychology we need.

If men can learn to be less defensive, more open to others, and more accepting of accountability, they will adapt well to the new global economy.

The ABC's are attitude, behavior and communication skills.

Actors are intelligent. Yet, many of them do not communicate well. That's what makes it so hard to have a relationship with one.

In this job, you accept criticism and give answers on the field.

Learning is a result of listening, which in turn leads to even better listening and attentiveness to the other person. In other words, to learn from the child, we must have empathy, and empathy grows as we learn.

I was never very mature in my relationships with women. First sign of conflict, I was gone.

Most people that derail as leaders in the corporate world, it's not because they couldn't do the math and calculate return on investment properly. The issues are communication and understanding. All of what typically would've been called the 'soft stuff.' You have to be authentic. You have to be dialed into the soft stuff.

I'm not a terrible person, I know that, but sometimes in a relationship, I can be crappy.

Where I didn't have the maturity and the compassion to consider other people's needs, I did a lot of damage.

One of the other things I think that I've been able to do in my life, is to listen well.

Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.

I hope that whenever my daughter has a negative experience, I'm there to talk about it and remind her how we feel when it's done to her so that she doesn't do it to others.

In business, there are times when you disagree, and sometimes it turns out that you're just plain wrong. Humor takes away tension and helps you realize you're wrong.

Remember that no relationship is a total waste of time. You can always learn something about yourself.

I'm engaged: I'm interested in other people. I think that's just as important as knowing how to do the job.

Nice people with common sense do not make interesting characters. They only make good former spouses.

Crankiness is a human attribute that, when people walk in the door of Xerox, they remain human. The best way to get the best out of people is to not force them to be something other than they naturally are. Now what do they have to be? They have to be respectful. You can't be ridiculously disrespectful.

When people disappoint you, it's just as much your responsibility to be aware of it and what you don't want.

I hate people.

I make my relationships at work.

For me, becoming a man had a lot to do with learning communication, and I learned about that by acting.

I'm not a screamer. I'm confrontational, but I don't think that translates into anger.

I feel that if a person has problems communicating the very least he can do is to shut up.

I think for leadership positions, emotional intelligence is more important than cognitive intelligence. People with emotional intelligence usually have a lot of cognitive intelligence, but that's not always true the other way around.