vulnerability avoidance Quotes

I'm so afraid of losing something I love that I refuse to love anything

Inevitably, anytime we are too vulnerable we feel the need to protect ourselves from further wounds. So we resort to sarcasm, cutting humor, criticism - anything that will keep from exposing the tenderness within. Each partner tends to wait on the initiative of the other for love, only to be disappointed but also confirmed as to the rightness of the accusations made.

I won't let you close enough to hurt me.

You aren't afraid of throwing yourself in the path of danger, but you're terrified of letting anyone in.

Terrified of being alone, yet afraid of intimacy, we experience widespread feelings of emptiness, of disconnection, of the unreality of self. And here the computer, a companion without emotional demands, offers a compromise. You can be a loner, but never alone. You can interact, but need never feel vulnerable to another person.

The truth is, I've always been afraid of letting anyone get too close. I built a wall around me, a barricade to hide behind those few times someone wanted entry to my heart.

I'm a filmmaker. I like to ask the questions, make others feel vulnerable. I don't want to be vulnerable.

I, for one, have no interest at all in having my heart stolen.

Bits are fake conversations comedians have because they are uncomfortable being vulnerable with other human beings in any way.

I don't want to cry. Everyone will make note of my tears and I'll be marked as an easy target. A weakling. I will give no one that satisfaction.

It was better not to get too close to another person. The closer you got, the more likely you were to get hurt.

Oh God they got you gun shy You know your skin's as cold as ice Your eyes are double filtered babe You're so afraid to be nice There's no way you're ready To let your defenses down Though I won't come on heavy There is a lesson that I've found.

...no way could I fall in love. I just couldn't go there yet. Settle for less. I didn't want to process through anything. I didn't want to pick up any pieces. Lower my expectations.

If I have a feeling of not trusting, I don't get too close.

Judging is a preemptive attack against that which you most desire - intimacy and acceptance - that is launched before you can be rejected or refused.