The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out. One is unselfish; the other selfish. One is universally admired; the other universally condemned.
If I see someone that is awesome or is an amazing player, I'm going to say he's an amazing player. If he looks like he sucks, I'm going to say, 'Hey that guy sucks!'
The simulated approval and affection with which parents and teachers are often urged to solve behavior problems are counterfeit. So are flattery, backslap-ping, and many other ways of "winning friends.
Sometimes we think we dislike flattery, but it is only the way it is done that we dislike.
I kept looking [at Katie] and thinking, 'This woman's amazing.' I'm happy that I'm with her. She's amazing, and I'd think the same of her even if she wasn't with me - she's just amazing.
Every now and then, someone will tell me that one of my books has made them laugh out loud. I never believe them because: a.) my books don't make me laugh out loud; and b.) sometimes I have said this to a writer, when really what I meant was, 'Your book made me smile appreciatively.'
Nothing else can quite substitute for a few well-chosen, well-timed, sincere words of praise. They're absolutely free and worth a fortune.
No one actually knows how popular you are or how people think of you until and unless a few of the people who like your work walk up to you and let you know that you are really good. You can see the honesty in their eyes.
According to the dictionary, knock has two definitions: "to strike something with a sharp blow," and "to find fault with, a harsh and often petty criticism." Perhaps in human relationships both of these meanings could apply. Almost all men will respond to sincere praise and rebel at harsh and cutting criticisms.
To tell a woman who is forty, "You look like sixteen," is boloney. The blarney way of saying it is "Tell me how old you are, I should like to know at what age women are the most beautiful.
The way you walk, way you talk, way you say my name; it's beautiful, wonderful, don't you ever change.
It is splendid to be supportive when you see those around you doing well, but blind praise is easier than harsh facts.
It is not for minds like ours to give or to receive flatter; yet the praises of sincerity have ever been permitted to the voice of friendship
We got together, and Bruce Willis was just a sweet animal, a sweetheart. I tell you, right down to the core he's just a real professional, a real gentleman, and I must say I'm so very happy for him that he's got a heck of a good film.
Have you not seen that in our days Of any whose story, song or art Delights us, our sincerest praise Means, when all's said, 'You break my heart?
The encomium of one incapable of flattery is indeed flattering.
Nothing is more effective than sincere, accurate praise, and nothing is more lame than a cookie-cutter compliment.
Just praise is only a debt, but flattery is a present.
I think of my life as a series of moments and I've found that the great moments often don't have too much to them. They're not huge, complicated events; they're just magical wee moments when somebody says 'I love you' or 'You're a really good at what you do' or simply 'You're a good person'.
Public shows of honor are pleasant, but private ones are pleasanter, because they are above suspicion.
Samuel Langhorne Clemens, 1835-1910
That's the best worship you can get when the worship leader is there with no other intentions and ready to sing their heart out for the Lord.
Praising an honest person who doesn't deserve it, always wounds them.
A heap of epithets is poor praise: the praise lies in the facts, and in the way of telling them.
It is no flattery to give a friend a due character; for commendation is as much the duty of a friend as reprehension.
When good friends praise a gifted person he often appears to be delighted with them out of politeness and goodwill, but in reality he feels indifferent.