self-compassion techniques Quotes

I cannot love anyone if I hate myself. That is the reason why we feel so extremely uncomfortable in the presence of people who are noted for their special virtuousness, for they radiate an atmosphere of the torture they inflict on themselves. That is not a virtue but a vice.

You can't build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.

We ought to fear a man who hates himself, for we are at risk of becoming victims of his anger and revenge. Let us then try to lure him into self-love.

How easy it is to be compassionate when it's yourself you see in trouble.

The root of compassion, is compassion for oneself.

Your only shame is to have shame.

Not even self-love can always be counted on for support.

We can’t practice compassion with other people if we can’t treat ourselves kindly.

Lao Tzu says: "Accept yourself. Non-acceptance is the root of all the trouble." None of us accept ourselves. The more a person doesn't accept himself, the greater a mahatma he looks to others to be. We are our greatest enemy. If we had our way, we would cut ourselves to pieces in order to remove what was unacceptable.

I need you to love me, I don't like me, either, if that helps.

In order to have compassion for others, we have to have compassion for ourselves.

If I can't really find a way to live with myself, I can't expect anyone else to live with me.

Compassion for others begins with kindness to ourselves.

Compassion directed to oneself is humility.

Self-esteem is for sissies. Accept that you're a pimple and try to keep a lively sense of humor about it. That way lies grace - and maybe even glory.

Without loving-kindness for ourselves, it is difficult, if not impossible, to genuinely feel it for others.

How shall we expect charity towards others, when we are uncharitable to ourselves?

Self-criticism sessions were held, but these produced more criticism than could usefully be absorbed or accomodated.