interpersonal disconnection Quotes

There's no better way to dismantle a personality than to isolate it.

Lonely people tend, rather, to be lonely because they decline to bear the psychic costs of being around other humans. They are allergic to people. People affect them too strongly.

Wine is a sign of happiness, love and plenty, how many of our adolescents and young people sense that these are no longer found in their homes? How many women, sad and lonely, wonder when love left, when it slipped away from their lives? How many elderly people feel left out of family celebrations, cast aside and longing each day for a little love?

The great irony to Dirk [Gently] is that he sees connections in everything, but the one thing he fails and struggles with most is connecting with other people.

We are separated from one another by an unbridgeable gulf of otherness and strangeness which resists all our attempts to overcome it by means of natural association or emotional or spiritual union. There is no way from one person to another. However loving and sympathetic we try to be, however sound our psychology however frank and open our behaviour we cannot penetrate the incognito of the other man, for there are no direct relationships, not even between soul and soul. Christ stands between us, and we can only get into touch with our neighbors through Him.

Does virtual intimacy degrade our experience of the other kind and, indeed, of all encounters, of any kind?

Boredom between two people doesn't come from being together physically. It comes from being apart mentally and spiritually.

Labels are distancing phenomena. They push us away from each other.

When you're afraid of someone's judgment, you can't connect with them. You're too preoccupied with the task of impressing them.

The maintenance of secrets acts like a psychic poison which alienates the possessor from the community.

The strangest thing. I came to the end of other people so quickly. Each new person was like a glass of water, and at the beginning I was parched, but then each glass tasted a little worse, the water was grittier, and by the end even the first sip was enough to make me gag, you know?

Loneliness is more likely to lead to fussy housekeeping than to grand views of the Universe.