Healthy Boundaries Quotes

When we begin to set boundaries with people we love, a really hard thing happens: they hurt. They may feel a hole where you used to plug up their aloneness, their disorganization, or their financial irresponsibility. Whatever it is, they will feel a loss. If you love them, this will be difficult for you to watch. But, when you are dealing with someone who is hurting, remember that your boundaries are both necessary for you and helpful for them. If you have been enabling them to be irresponsible, your limit setting may nudge them toward responsibility.

Negative people deplete your energy. Surround yourself with love and nourishment and do not allow the creation of negativity in your environment.

If we are happy within ourselves, we don't accept or demand that our partner should fulfill every need. We need to be comfortable with our own company.

You best teach others about healthy boundaries by enforcing yours.

I love my kids. But I don't give them the burden of being the source of my love.

I've gotten to a place where I'm better at curbing your ego, which usually happens when you're feeling super small and scared about whatever you're seeing, and you want to go read, 'Oh, I hear there's a really good article about me.' I've gotten better about knowing that's not going to end well, usually.

In your early 20s, it was maybe acceptable to have a friend who was taking all of your time and energy and exhausting you and always a drama. When you're in your 30s, or you're starting to have babies, you just can't put up with it anymore, and that's okay, because I think your priorities shift.

You can begin really looking for a relationship . . . when you can (appreciate) the whole concept of giving to someone, not just taking.

If anyone is ever rude to you, then there's no need to hang out with them! Just find the people that make you feel good.

I would never hold my children back from that. I would never want them to resent me for holding them back from their father's wedding.

Taking on responsibilities that properly belong to someone else means behaving irresponsibly toward yourself. You need to know where you end and someone else begins. You need to understand boundaries. You need to know what is and is not up to you, what is and is not in your control, what is and is not your responsibility.

Ninety nine percent of the time it's not urgent and to create a culture where you are constantly plugged in and expected to be always-on is to create a culture of burnout.

You can love something too much, you can spend too much time with something - that's when you've got to learn how to balance.

I have a tendency to make my partner my everything and that is unfair and it doesn't end up working out because you can't rely on that one person to fulfill all of your needs emotionally.

Why is balance important? From a life lesson standpoint, it's about learning to enjoy yourself without getting the ego involved.

It's not that I didn't love myself before. Sometimes we don't realize that we are compromising ourselves. To understand that a person is not good for you, or that that person is not treating you in the right way, or that he is not doing the right thing for himself - if I stay, then I am not doing the right thing for me. I love myself enough to walk away from that now.

In all proper relationships there is no sacrifice of anyone to anyone.

Need is never a good basis for any relationship.

I know it's not good to be weak and helpless. But I don't think it's good to be too strong either. In our society, they talk about survival of the fittest. But we're not animals. We're human.

Stick with the people who love you and don’t spend a single second on the rest. Life will be better that way.

Nobody deserves your tears, but whoever deserves them will not make you cry.

I'm married. I've been with my husband for six years. Now that I know what a healthy relationship is, I find I can write better about the unhealthiness of relationships.

I detest 'love lyrics.' I think one of the causes of bad mental health in the United States is that people have been raised on 'love lyrics.

Peace is your priority, not saving the world. That follows that.

I'm terrible at relationships. I consider myself to be smart and a good mother but it's taken me this long to realise you don't have to marry a guy after three days or dump him.