You best teach others about healthy boundaries by enforcing yours.
If you have an important point to make, don't try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time - a tremendous whack.
Be strong, but not rude; Be kind, but not weak; Be bold, but not bully; Be humble, but not timid; Be prooud, but not arrogant.
When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.
Those who seek to please everybody please nobody.
Learn to say no; it will be of more use to you than to be able to read Latin.
As long as you want to please everyone, you won't please anyone.
I get the reason that you should be willing to negotiate sometimes. But you also ought to be willing to throw a punch.
I will reach out to others and explain why I make the decisions I make.
My dad was not good at saying no. I'm trying to be better at saying no.
Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly-without attacking others.
I have definitely noticed I am very passionate. So if I'm fighting with someone I'll be SO super loud and aggressive, and make sure that my point is heard.
A master salesman is one who takes the offensive and never the defensive sale of an argument, if argument arises.
Saying "yes" doesn't mean I don't know how to say no, and saying "please" doesn't mean I am waiting for permission.
Don't misunderstand good manners for passivity.
I'm never argumentative for the sake of being argumentative, I don't think. And more than ever, I've had to be willing to fight just to get records released, or just to be able to walk away with a little bit of self-respect and pride.
Those who talk loudly are rarely listened to.
If you want something in a deal, just ask for it.
I'm a screamer and a yeller. When I want something, all I do is yell, and I get responses.
Anyone who knows me knows how sharp my mind is. I speak at a thousand miles an hour. I'll hold a discussion or a debate with anyone.
Maybe almost 20 years ago, I was like, 'God, I need to be more direct.' And I found times that I could practice it when it was maybe not my family or friends or co-workers. It's a quality that's rarely disliked.
Say what you have to say and the first time you come to a sentence with a grammatical ending - sit down.
Truth demands confrontation. It must be loving confrontation, but there must be confrontation nonetheless.
I'm a boss by nature. I'm bossy. I'm not imperious, but I don't really want people to curtsy low before me and back out of rooms, but I do like to run things.
There may be no single thing more important in our efforts to achieve meaningful work and fulfilling relationships than to learn to practice the art of communication.
