Rajneesh Quotes

The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you, but it is not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of the other person without possessing the other, without becoming dependent on the other, without reducing the other to a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other.

Children who have learned to be comfortably dependent can become not only comfortably independent but also comfortable with having people depend on them. They can lean, stand, and be leaned upon, because they know what a good feeling it can be to feel needed.

I think if we want to find happiness by finding a life partner, then it's a little selfish. You should be complete within yourself, so that when you're in a relationship, you can give out happiness rather than expect it.

Love is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence.

We need to help people to discover the true meaning of love. Love is generally confused with dependence. Those of us who have grown in true love know that we can love only in proportion to our capacity for independence.

I don't think it's necessarily healthy to go into relationships as a needy person. Better to go in with a full deck.

It's important to me to be in a relationship when I'm in one, but I'm not someone who needs to be in a relationship.

The person who needs the other person the least in a relationship is the stronger member.

When I was younger, the idea of the bad boy was appealing, but then I grew up and realized that stable people are more fulfilling. Bad boys need more time to themselves. I want to be in a relationship with someone who knows how to take care of himself and is therefore able to take care of me. That way, we can put each other first.

Mature people relate to each other without the need to merge.

Extreme independence is as destructive to a relationship as total dependence.

Being able to depend on someone doesn't mean you're dependent on them.

You can be very independent, but admit to wanting somebody close to you and that's what me and my wife have. We don't need each other but we want to be with each other and I think it's important to educate the kids with that.

I don't think you can really, truly be the partner you want to be until you know on an absolute level that you are a complete person on your own.

If we are happy within ourselves, we don't accept or demand that our partner should fulfill every need. We need to be comfortable with our own company.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

I had a serious boyfriend in high school, but we would take breaks in between. You shouldn't always have a boyfriend!

Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.'

In the past I would self destruct when it came to love - I was immature, throwing myself into things but now times have changed, I want a relationship where you understand the other person.

I have an interesting perspective on depending on others. I think it gives people a chance to serve. And I'm not so much big on independence, as I am on interdependence. I'm not talking about co-dependency, I'm talking about giving people the opportunity to practicing love with its sleeves rolled up.

I think when you get to the point where you don't need to be in love, then you could be in love. You have to just be OK with yourself-and that's a long process.

True adulthood occurs the moment we grasp that the people who raised us do not exist solely for our comfort and reassurance. From that point on, the steady stream of unconditional love and support we've expected from them all our lives has to flow both ways.

There is nothing in Indispensable that says, Alone.

The best relationship is one that does not foster too much independence nor too much dependence, but exists in the healthy interdependence zone.