Emma Donoghue Quotes

Enter others' minds and let them enter yours.

I think the notion of understanding each other is a relief. It's not a thing you get with everyone you hang out with.

Talking with a friend is nothing else but thinking aloud.

Ideal conversation must be an exchange of thought, and not, as many of those who worry most about their shortcomings believe, an eloquent exhibition of wit or oratory.

It's fabulous when you do that, when you discover somebody who you like, when you kind of feel those feelings, even though he articulates them better.

An important part of dating is communicating. We communicate by sharing our thoughts, ideas, and feelings. We enjoy being with someone when we have an easy time communicating or when we have a lot to talk about.

I think everybody wants someone who understands them and is able to compromise and meet them halfway. I mean, it goes both ways, you know?

My readers - and I get 400 emails for a day, my readers normally they say, well, you understand me, and I answer, you do understand me also. We are in the same level.

Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is conversation.

And without understanding, could each properly love the other?

I'm busy communicating ideas.... I want you to know what I'm thinking. If you feel a connection, good. If you don't, fine.

It's really nice when you can sit down with somebody and just talk to them, and talk about your ideas and what you think the character is, and they respond to it. It's a really nice way to do it, but it doesn't happen very often.

When someone really goes to tell you something about what they're thinking, they're going to wear that experience with them. That's what you have to share.

I think that's the most important thing: that we create dialogue.

I think girls are surprised when you actually really listen and then you call it back at the end of the night.

Of lovers whose bodies smell of each other Who think the same thoughts without need of speech

I don't know, think for that relationship in particular age doesn't really come into play.

The next time you're mad at me, talk to me,' he said. 'Don't shut me out. I don't like playing games. And by the way, I had a great time, too.

Conversation is not a search after knowledge, but an endeavor at effect.

Love and trust, in the space between what’s said and what’s heard in our life, can make all the difference in the world.

Communication leads to community that is, to understanding, intimacy, and the mutual valuing that was previously lacking. Community can be defined simply as a group in which free conversation can take place. Community is where I can share my innermost thoughts, bring out the depths of my own feelings, and know they will be understood.

For me, chemistry is trust. If you have trust you can risk together. It's like a partnership and it means you can have fun together while jumping off a mountain. I have not always been able to get good trust with an acting partner. One of the best was Juliet Landau; I always felt safe with her. Chemistry has nothing to do with physical attraction - that often gets in the way.

Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. When we really listen to people there is an alternating current, and this recharges us so that we never get tired of each other. We are constantly being re-created.

I never had a connection like that to anyone, where every day you think about what you’ll tell them and you wonder what they’re doing, and you know they’re wondering what you’re doing.

And in this moment, I realize one reason it's so great to have a best friend is sometimes, like right now, Cal and I are thinking the very same thing.