Adrianne Lenker Quotes

I like it now when kids stare at me, because it is a way of starting a dialogue. And it is far better than them not looking at you at all. Nothing is worse than not being seen.

I have a big thing with eye contact, because I think as soon as you make eye contact with somebody, you see them, and they become valued and worthy.

Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.

To truly feel seen by another person makes you feel so peaceful.

When my friends and family call me Josie, it feels like I'm being seen. It's something everyone wants, to feel understood.

It means a lot when people understand what I'm going for.

I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them.

It's beautiful to have people look me in the eyes and actually treat me like a human.

One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.

It is not our purpose to become each other; it is to recognize each other, to learn to see the other and honor him for what he is.

A man is already halfway in love with any woman who listens to him.

Folks want to be listened to, they want to be heard.

What we yearn for as human beings is to be visible to each other.

It is better to be looked over than overlooked.

Listening is such a simple act. It requires us to be present, and that takes practice, but we don't have to do anything else. We don't have to advise, or coach, or sound wise. We just have to be willing to sit there and listen.

No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him.

If you're living strictly for the future or living in the past, it can make your partner feel neglected. Make yourself focus on the moment you're in.

Now, I realise that love is peace. Love is when you are with somebody, and it's okay, and you don't have to talk. Their presence is important.

Being seen means that your being is held by the other person without comment, without praise or blame or indifference - just with some kind of open care.

When somebody comes up to you and shows you yellow underlining of something you wrote, that's such a high. It's a connection to others.

To be known so well by someone is an unimaginable gift. But to be imagined so well by someone is even better.

If people don't feel they've got your attention, you're not going to succeed.

I think I'm relatable.

I don't think anyone ever feels acknowledged enough.

Here's the thing: When you become brilliant at listening, people feel that you care about them. When they feel you care about them, they begin to care about you. And when people care about you, your success becomes a part of how they define their success.