John O'Donohue Quotes

In a relationship when things are really great you don't need to say anything and just enjoy the other person. Sometimes with a couple, it gets dark and you don't know what to say and that silence can last all day. Other times you don't want to stop talking because you don't want to lose one another.

Any time you have intimacy with someone, there is something between them.

'Secret' is about intimacy between two people and the connection you have with someone that goes beyond words.

I'm not gonna say something unless I really feel comfortable around you. Unless I feel like I know you, I'm not gonna really open up.

What was more, they had taken the first step toward genuine friendship. They had exchanged vulnerabilities.

Fear is the great enemy of intimacy. Fear makes us run away from each other or cling to each other but does not create true intimacy.

Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you.

If fear is the great enemy of intimacy, love is its true friend.

In a relationship you have to open yourself up.

Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.

It's not like you can wake up and realize, 'Oh, I want intimacy,' and then it happens that day.

Relationships in general make people a bit nervous. It's about trust. Do I trust you enough to go there?

A conversation goes sometimes into personal things and that's nicer. You look to each other and you have a different picture, you get into a relationship.

I'm kind of private and I keep things inside a lot, but it's been so wonderful to realize that people care about you in a very deep way and that there is some bond between an actor and his audience. I don't even know how to describe that feeling.

Interestingly, the best way to promote intimacy is to demand it.

I don't fear commitment and people in my world getting too close.

Sometimes, when you act with someone in an intimate capacity, you have to ask vulnerable questions to speed up intimacy - but that's artificial.

Sex should be a deepening of communication, not a substitute for it.

Remember, intimacy increases with honesty. Share less to keep people away and more to draw them closer.

When I can really open myself up to someone and show someone who I really am, it's amazing when it happens.

All intimacy is rare-that's what makes it precious.

Something about telling that story made my gut grow back together." What?" Oh, nothing. Just thinking out loud." That's who you really like. The people you can think out loud in front of." The people who've been in your secret hiding places." The people you bite your thumb in front of." Hi." Hi." ..." ..." Wow. My first Lindsey." My second Colin." That was fun. Let's try it again." Sold." ..." ..." ...".

Intimacy doesn't have all that much to do with backseats of cars. Real intimacy is brushing your teeth together.

You need to keep people close. You need to give them access to your heart.

One hardly dares to say that love is the core of the relationship, though love is sought for and created in relationship; love is rather the marvel when it is there, but it is not always there, and to know another and to be known by another - that is everything.