John D. MacDonald Quotes

In many cases, it's a choice. There are many, many human beings through history - millions and millions and millions - who have been both homosexual at times in their lives and then heterosexual, or vice-versa, or bisexual. How can it be a biological imperative if people can change?

I am neither a homosexual nor a eunuch, nor have I ever taken any vows of chastity.

There is no such thing as a homosexual or a heterosexual person. There are only homo- or heterosexual acts. Most people are a mixture of impulses if not practices.

People have always said, are you gay? I've had a lot of that. But it's just not in me. I really like women a lot; I'm repulsed by men sexually.

I am not bisexual. I am not gay. I have never had sex with men.

A huge part of what animates homophobia among young people is paranoia and fear of their own capacity to be gay themselves.

We learn our sexual preferences and orientations.

I'm glad I'm not bisexual. I couldn't stand being rejected by men as well as women.

I know a lot of gay males who I work with that are fantastic people and I love hanging out with them. But because I hang out and bring gay men into my life, does that mean that I'm gay? I promise you that I very much love women.

I never said I was gay, because I don't think anyone is.

I am the heterosexual Truman Capote.

No, I'm not gay.

I'm far from being a homosexual.

All men are homosexual, some turn straight. It must be very odd to be a straight man because your sexuality is hopelessly defensive. It's like an ideal of racial purity.

What the Kinseyites and I had in common so long ago was the knowledge that homosexual and heterosexual behavior are natural to all mammals, and that what differs from individual to individual is the balance between these two complementary but not necessarily conflicted drives.

There is no conscious choice of heterosexual identity any more than there is a homosexual one. The last person in the world who wants to be homosexual, for the most part, are homosexuals.

Today, many people are engaging in same sex relationships and saying they are not gay.

I didn't know if I was heterosexual or homosexual.

I think heterosexuality and homosexuality are a kind of psychosis, and the truth is somewhere in the middle.

I'm not even kind of a lesbian.

I think honestly, some people who think they're gay, they're confused.

There is object proof that homosexuality is more interesting than heterosexuality. It's that one knows a considerable number of heterosexuals who would wish to become homosexuals, whereas one knows very few homosexuals who would really like to become heterosexuals.

My theory is the spectrum: there's a spectrum of sexuality.

Women who have been with man after man after man after man choose to become a lesbian later in life. Gay men, it doesn't work so much that way.

People from pre-sexual revolution and even from the 60s and the birth of the gay movement still define gay as two men or two women having sex. Our generation defines it from a more emotional standpoint. To be gay means you are drawn to the same sex. But it's a part of who you are, an identity, not an act.