Sarah Dessen Quotes

There's no way around grief and loss: you can dodge all you want, but sooner or later you just have to go into it, through it, and, hopefully, come out the other side. The world you find there will never be the same as the world you left.

While she cut the mushrooms, she cried more than she had at the grave, the most so far, because she found the saddest thing of all to be the simple truth of her capacity to move on.

Sometimes we have to soak ourselves in the tears and fears of the past to water our future gardens.

There are some pains that run too deep for anything to absolve them. The best we can do is pick up the pieces and hope for the strength we need to keep going.

The only thing grief has taught me is to know how shallow it is.

It's possible to go on, no matter how impossible it seems, and that in time, the grief . . . lessens. It may not go away completely, but after a while it's not so overwhelming.

The depth of the feeling continued to surprise and threaten me, but each time it hit again and I bore it...I would discover that it hadn't washed me away.

He who has felt the deepest grief is best able to experience supreme happiness.

Don't let what you have to heal from blind you to how much there is to heal for.

and now, all these years later, it seem to him that the most horrible fact of human existence was that broken hearts mended

When you're threatened, or something hard hits you, acknowledge it, embrace it. Don't pretend that you didn't get hurt - hurt, cry, think about it. And then you let it go and try something else.

Set your compass to beauty, humor, and grief; stay the course no matter what, and I'll support you with everything I've got.

Life is short. You have to be able to laugh at our pain or we never move on.

I want to sit in my own sorrow, cry it out, talk to God, and say, 'Give me strength, wisdom.'

At my lowest point, I found cooking.

Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift.

Life Lesson 3: You can't rush grief. It has its own timetable. All you can do is make sure there are lots of soft places around - beds, pillows, arms, laps.

Take this sorrow to thy heart and make it part of thee, and it shall nourish thee till thou art strong again.

There was a point that I stopped crying. It's not just because I didn't feel pain anymore, not because I didn't feel sorrow. It was just to keep going. I mean, it just was to survive, to live.

And yet, I found I could survive. I was alert, I felt the pain - the aching loss that radiated out from my chest, sending wracking waves of hurt through my limbs and head - but it was manageable. I could live through it. I didn't feel like the pain had weakened over time, rather that I'd grown strong enough to bear it.

T is the work of many a dark hour, many a prayer, to bring the heart back from an infant gone.

It's like my garden, love. Everything grows. Including love. And with that growing everyday how can you expect missing her to ever fade away? Everything builds, including our ability to cope with it. That's how we keep going.

One of the things about grief is that it can bring a deeper perspective into your life; in the end, it has, for me, though it's also brought sorrow.

Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.

You mourn, for it is proper to mourn. But your grief serves you; you do not become a slave to grief. You bid the dead farewell, and you continue.