Gerda Lerner Quotes

I've never been very successful in a monogamous relationship, but I'm looking forward to the day when I can assume that responsibility.

Yet, if the most frequent sex and apparently the best sex is that between married partners who are faithful to one another, is there not a hint that affection might be an important aspect of sex? Even love?

I'm also interested in the modern suggestion that you can have a combination of love and sex in a marriage - which no previous society has ever believed.

I feel like I'm too old to just have sex. I mean, I want to have sex, but with somebody who really loves me.

Sex is a part of love. You shouldn't go around doing it unless you are in love.

What's the difference between sex and love? I have four wives and five kids. I apparently don't know the difference.

I'm a serial monogamist - I tend to dive in.

Monogamous heterosexual love is probably one of the most difficult, complex and demanding of human relationships.

Trying to get your sexual partner to make a monogamous commitment to you is not a loving thing to do; it's selfish.

Sex accounts for about 40 percent of your relationship, but if it's bad, then it's 60.

I don't think you should have sex with anyone unless you love them.I think you should just wait for the person you're in love with.

I’ve always preferred having girlfriends to just seeing people.

When sex disappears the tremendous energy of love is left behind. Each ugly thing in your mind, disappearing, leaves a great treasure behind.

I can say I'm a relationship person, and I like relationships. I think I also like relationships because then you don't have to date because dating is horrible.

Always remember, children, that marriage is a very intimate relationship. It's not just sitting and chatting to a person; there are other things, you know.

Sex is good for about two years, and then you need love.

Men would like monogamy better if it sounded less like monotony.

I'm not not looking for a girlfriend - but I'm not particularly looking for a girlfriend, either. I'm not knocking having a relationship; at the end of the day, you want to share with someone. But I just look at it as, I have the rest of my life to do that. I'm not in any rush.

Secret of life is to go through something harrowing that doesnt kill you...and to love one woman for the rest of your life.

when the thrill of his body fades or changes, and the difficulties of pledging yourself to only one person surface, kindness will be the balm that soothes the wounds of life.

I don't believe [monogamy] is realistic. But, I believe that we, as people, have the power to make it happen.

There is need of variety in sex, but not in love.

Marriage is a pretty amazing thing when you think about it. For two people to live together for so long under the same roof is a big accomplishment. Fifty-year anniversaries are becoming extinct, yet again proving that long marriages deserve awards and praise. Sometimes I see old people in restaurants sitting together eating their meals and I watch them. Sometimes it makes me sad. They don't even talk. Is it because they have nothing else to say, or can they simply read each other's mind by now?

You have to find a mother inside yourself. We all do. Even if we already have a mother, we still have to find this part of ourselves inside