Ira Sachs Quotes

My greatest environments in which I can grow, or grow up, is in personal romantic relationships with a man.

I've been in many relationships in my life and learned a lot from them, good and bad.

Relationships, it seems to me, are timeless. What works between two people always works; what doesn't is always troublesome. Over time, people learn - or not - how to negotiate what's difficult, but that doesn't mean the misfit has gone away entirely.

Beyond just writing about falling in love and out of love and wanting to do certain things and going out and partying and all the things that I grew up writing about, I want to write about deeper things.

Like any friendship or marriage, familiarity breeds more contempt, and love, and everything.

Lovers may be - and indeed generally are - enemies, but they never can be friends, because there must always be a spice of jealousy and a something of Self in all their speculations.

I'm somebody's ex-wife, and I did things that drove him nuts. And now I'm somebody's girlfriend, for many years, and I've got different things that drive him nuts.

A relationship can give you a gut wrenching feeling sometimes. It's a real emotional ride.

It's just like any relationship, the more contained the environment, the more the good stuff appears and the more the bad stuff will reveal itself.

Being grown up and in a serious relationship, I've learned so much. I'm happier than I've every been.

When you are in a long relationship, sometimes you forget who you are, what you love to do.

I think as humans we do want to control our relationships, and you can't. It's probably better that you can't. That wouldn't be a real relationship, and we'd never learn and grow.

I think when you're in a relationship, either you have something or your partner generally has something that you're having to deal with.

I remember I had a fight with my friend when I touched a boy for the first time and I didn't tell her. She got mad with me, not because I didn't tell her but because I'd done it in the first place.

Relationships are beautiful, and it's wonderful to find someone you can spend time with and share your life with. But there's also a lot of pressure attached to that. And I think you can't be in a relationship until you have discovered yourself fully.

I'm 31 now. I think I'm beginning to understand what life is, what romance is, and what a relationship means.

Happy relationships are boring. We all want them in our own life. But I don't want to watch them on TV.

You kind of restructure your whole personality to be in a healthy relationship.

I tend to believe, when you're in a relationship, if you don't fight, it's not a real relationship. You have to have arguments and tensions, otherwise I don't believe it.

I call myself taking control of a situation, but sometimes you really have to learn to humble yourself and to submit yourself. I'm not really good with submission, so that's the part of marriage and relationships that I've found very hard to deal with.

Before I proposed to my now-wife, I was understandably nervous. My father suggested that I take stock of all of my experiences and relationships with women, from my earliest memories to present day, and see if I had learned anything that might inform my decision.

As I get older I realize what qualities are important in love and what suits me. And what I won't settle for.

You learn more about yourself in intimate relationships than any other endeavor. I can go do 'King and I' and sing out in front of 1,000-plus people, but trying to open up about something that's bothering me with somebody that I'm in a relationship with? That's the scariest thing.

For me, relationships are the real action movies. Bombs are exploding every day and the kitchen is Ground Zero.

To be honest, relationships with the opposite sex are the most challenging things I've done. You lose your compass, gravity changes, you don't know what's up or down, you're trying to figure it out. You're trying to make everybody happy, including yourself, and it's just... it's humbled me.