Neil Strauss Quotes

Consciously be sensitive to others, and try to elevate their level of consciousness. Don't do this by being preachy and telling them that they 'should' do this or that. Do it by raising your own level of energy and recognizing what's best in others.

People often ask me what is the most effective technique for transforming their life. It is a little embarrassing that after years and years of research and experimentation, I have to say that the best answer is - just be a little kinder.

New Year's resolution: To refrain from saying witty, unkind things, unless they are really witty and irreparably damaging.

You cannot change someone using fear, degradation, humiliation, or by comparing them to others. It can only be done through love, with love, for love. Love.

I'm a forgiver. I might not forget, but I forgive. My mother, father and older brother always told me: 'Don't hold grudges. If you do that, you don't lower yourself down to your adversary. Just treat people the way you want to be treated.' I honestly think that's why I was able to survive and have some success.

I think it's unnecessary to be mean for the sake of being mean, but I do believe you have to be truthful, but with love.

If I want to be a better person for whoever is in my life, I have to learn.

I always try to think of positive things to say about the people I portray, as it's more helpful for me.

If you have some respect for people as they are, you can be more effective in helping them to become better than they are.

The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.

I simply do not think that yelling, swearing, threatening or belittling will get you to the place you want to be faster than kindness, understanding, patience and a little willingness to compromise.

The individual is capable of both great compassion and great indifference. He has it within his means to nourish the former and outgrow the latter.

When we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.

As in all areas, we can improve how good we are at loving another person.

Trying to learn to be a good man is like learning to play tennis against a wall. You are only a good man - a competent, capable, interesting and lovable man - when you're doing it for, or with, other people.

The thing is that love gives us a ringside seat on somebody else's flaws, so of course you're gonna spot some things that kinda need to be mentioned. But often the romantic view is to say, 'If you loved me, you wouldn't criticise me.' Actually, true love is often about trying to teach someone how to be the best version of themselves.

Become a good all-around human being.

A lot of people out there are bullies, and they pick on people and call people names. You need to grow up from that, and you need to become a better person.

This idea of bringing awareness to our lives seems like a good idea, right? We'll gain a productive, enjoyable, reflective life and be able to extend compassion, empathy, and joy to others. That seems like a pretty good deal.

I've learned a lot. Being more compassionate.

You know what takes effort? Being kind, being patient, being respectful, telling someone how you feel politely instead of just avoiding them for six weeks.

I will try and become a very empathetic person because I do think that's a nice trait.

I don't feel the need to say hurtful comments true or not to someone and try to bring them down. There is no good that can come out of that, nothing positive.

You can't be a jerk in order to be a good writer.