Alexis Arquette Quotes

I'm queer - and queer, to me, is not being stuck in a binary and being kind of fluid.

People who don't have gender dysphoria aren't going to catch it by watching me dance on television.

I was a tomboy as a kid - I was skinny and had cropped hair and was often mistaken for a boy - and up until I was about six, I had my own very fluid ideas of gender in that I believed that, somehow, an individual could choose whether or not s/he wanted to be a boy or a girl.

Hedi Slimane told me I was boyish in his eyes. For him femininity and masculinity are the same thing, the difference is not so interesting, he said.

When I talk about intersex, people ask me, 'But what about the locker room?' Yes, what about the locker room? If so many people feel trepidation around it, why don't we fix the locker room? There are ways to signal to children that they are not the problem, and normalization technologies are not the way.

To recommend that women become identical to men, would be simple reversal, and would defeat the whole point of androgyny, and for that matter, feminism: in both, the whole point is choice.

I believe that I am transgender to help people understand differences. It allows me to gain perspective, to be more accepting of others, because I know what it feels like to know you're not like everyone else.

I'm non-binary, but I don't really talk about it that much.

Your gender should not matter in your heart or in the way you express your personality.

I think, for all trans people, it's not our only defining feature, but it is a defining feature.

Let's let our men be happy, be sad, be trans, be questioning, be bisexual, be non-conforming, be feminine, be masculine!

What we really need to look at is gender fluidity and the idea that gender can be customised however you want.

Transgender doesn't need to imply loud.

Being a woman is an option, being trans is an option, and they're options that appeal to me. We need to listen to people - not labels, not semantics.

I think it's so funny because straight people just don't think about gender in their songs, or making a statement by talking about love.

Trans people are not a monolith.

Sexuality is who you want to be with. Gender identity is who you want to be in the world.

It's good to have a free space to laugh and cry and get angry about gender and sexuality. That's one of the things I am the most thankful for from my friends and my family. They've given me the place to freely have gender be a part of our discourse.

I absolutely think it is more acceptable for people who were assigned female at birth to dress in a typically gender non-conforming way. There was a time when people of all genders had long hair and anyone who wanted to wore jewelry - it was more a sign of status than a sign of femininity, per se.

Kids and just young people in general are usually a lot more, I guess, open-minded to change. Especially when you're really little in elementary school, you don't expect a lot of things from people, so if somebody says, 'I'm switching genders,' you're just sort of like, 'OK, that's new. But cool.'

Masculinity involves feminine qualities, and femininity involves masculine qualities.

Androgyny suggests a spirit of reconciliation between the sexes.

We all have a cross-gender character: Every woman has a man that they can play, and every man has a woman that they can play.

When I was 5, I wore a tie, and I wanted to change my name to Larry, which probably tipped my parents off that I was gay.

I grew up in a commune where no one considered me female, particularly.