John Cheever Quotes

Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone - we find it with another.

I don't know if you're married, but sometimes there are times where one is really together with their partner. And then there are times when you're both just in your own thing, but you're there together.

Perhaps all human interaction is about wanting and getting.

If you're understood in maybe, I don't know, 60% of your soul by your partner, that's fantastic. Don't expect that it's going to be 100%. Of course you will be lonely.

A lot of the things that we do in life are to find connection.

Haec ego non multis (scribo), sed tibi: satis enim magnum alter alteri theatrum sumus. I am writing this not to many, but to you: certainly we are a great enough audience for each other.

Music is a dialogue.

I can understand companionship.

Each friend represents a world in us, a world not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.

They say great themes make great novels. but what these young writers don't understand is that there is no greater theme than men and women.

I don't know about relationships. Maybe I'm supposed to travel and make films and meet people and have adventures instead.

I'm not an isolated person. The more I connect to people, the more I have the feeling that things work.

The relationship between reader and writer is reciprocal in a way. We co-create each other. We are constantly emerging out of the relationship we have with others.

Communication is important.

I think romance is friendship and attraction sort of meeting together and that does influence what I'm writing a lot. I try to establish the attraction, obviously, but I also think it's important to show the characters having actual conversations about things other than their feelings for each other - and to develop their friendship on the page.

I believe a kid who is playing is not alone. There is something brought alive during play, and this something, when played with, seems to play back.

I think of the audience the way I would think of another person: You meet someone, then you take it from there; you see what's interesting to both of you.

I think the most important thing in life is relationships. I think that feeds us almost like food.

I think you live a fuller life with someone else, you know, you're firing on all cylinders. It can be a nightmare at times, we all know that, but nevertheless in the end I think to have someone else's input on anything - a book, a meal, your children, life, a walk - is fantastic.

All that matters in life is forging deep ties of love and family and friends. Writing and reading come later.

The beginning of a friendship, the fact that two people out of the thousands around them can meet and connect and become friends, seems like a kind of magic to me. But maintaining a friendship requires work. I don't mean that as a bad thing. Good art requires work as well.

Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing.

I think we pursue positive relationships whether or not they bring us engagement or happiness.

However successful you are, there is no substitute for a close relationship. We all need them.

I love to write and to get to know the people who are listening.