Pema Chodron Quotes

The part of us that feels anger and depression is the same part that feels peace and love. If you refuse to feel the anger and the pain of a loss, you will not be able to feel anything else until that area heals. In other words, stay out of your own way. Let yourself feel bad if you want to feel bad. Feel joy, too. Healing is taking place. Give yourself the gift of healing.

We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It's just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy. (10)

Self-compassion is how we recover.

I have learned that grief is a vital part of my heart and accept it as a gift that exists alongside joy.

Compassion for myself is the most powerful healer of them all.

Healing is a small and ordinary and very burnt thing. And it's one thing and one thing only: it's doing what you have to do.

Love heals scars love left

Healing fails to occur because it is much easier to injure another than to heal oneself.

Grief can have a quality of profound healing because we are forced to a depth of feeling that is usually below the threshold of awareness.

Be patient with yourself. Don't make the loss harder by thinking you should be a certain way, or have bounced back, etc.

You can't patch a wounded soul with a Band-Aid.

Weep if you must Parting is hell But life goes on So sing as well.

Well, it starts with being willing to feel what we are going through. It starts with being willing to have a compassionate relationship with the parts of ourselves that we feel are not worthy of existing on the planet. If we are willing through meditation to be mindful not only of what feels comfortable, but also of what pain feels like, if we even aspire to stay awake and open to what we're feeling, to recognize and acknowledge it as best we can in each moment, then something begins to change.

if we cultivate compassion for those who have hurt us, we have the possibility of overcoming our anger,pain, and fear. compassion is a great medicine.

and now, all these years later, it seem to him that the most horrible fact of human existence was that broken hearts mended

In order to heal others, we first need to heal ourselves. And to heal ourselves, we need to know how to deal with ourselves.

Every human being must find his own way to cope with severe loss, and the only job of a true friend is to facilitate whatever method he chooses.

Ten years ago, I still feared loss enough to abandon myself in order to keep things stable. I'd smile when I was sad, pretend to like people who appalled me. What I now know is that losses aren't cataclysmic if they teach the heart and soul their natural cycle of breaking and healing.

Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.

I've been searching for ways to heal myself, and I've found that kindness is the best way.

When you've been touched by sadness and grief, it makes you vulnerable. And because I am vulnerable, I try to be positive. And when I say 'try,' I really do mean try, because it's an effort.

The door to my heart opens inward. I move through forgiveness to love.

Depression leads him close to his wounds, but only the mourning for what he has missed, missed at the crucial time, can lead to real healing.

If we begin to get in touch with whatever we feel with some kind of kindness, our protective shells will melt, and we'll find that more areas of our lives are workable. AS we learn to have compassion for ourselves, the circle of compassion for others-what and whom we can work with, and how-becomes wider.

When you enter a new experience, all that requires healing rushes to the surface . . . You have to pause.