Mary Gaitskill Quotes

It's very difficult to judge relationships from the outside. You never know what happens in intimate moments with two people to know why they really support and love each other.

I do believe in soulmates and happy/successful marriages. No marriage can be happy 24x7 for 365 days. Both partners have to make the relationship work, is what I believe in.

I wanted to write about relationships in a more honest, raw sort of way. Get away from all those cliches about how 'time heals' and how you can be the better person. Less sugar-coating and more 'feel the pain.'

I think that two people who decide to live together in a marriage situation, they have an obligation to make the marriage work for them.

There's no point in being a relationship if the two of you don't support one another.

You always find women contribute to a relationship more than a man.

I always see people tweeting about these crazy amazing things their boyfriend or girlfriend did for them. You shouldn't have to constantly be trying to prove your love when you're in a relationship.

All marriages are happy. It's the living together afterward that causes all the trouble.

Danny and I worked really hard in the beginning of the relationship to find different levels of this couple.

When you're in a relationship you want it to work. My parents did, I did. But we are not taught how to make it work.

There's a big difference between falling in love with someone and falling in love with someone and getting married. Usually, after you get married, you fall in love with the person even more.

Women want love to be a novel, men a short story.

When two people love each other, they don't look at each other, they look in the same direction.

I talk to my friends and, you know, they all seem to get relationships that aren't right. You kind of want someone who is not at your beck and call but loves the idea of being in a relationship and what that entails.

I work very hard at relationships. I've done the thing of being home. I worked all day and came home and did all the stuff at home that a woman is supposed to do, the cooking and the entertaining. I'm a perfectionist, and, besides, I loved all those things.

Perfect partners don't exist. Perfect conditions exist for a limited time in which partnerships express themselves best.

All men and women have an equal need for love. When these needs are not fulfilled it is easy to have our feelings hurt, for which we blame our partner.

I like my life alone. I mean, I love being with friends, and I love kissing and loving someone to pieces. But it's hard to find someone who doesn't ultimately start judging you and your choices.

I want someone who will love me for the person I am and not because of my status. It has to be someone who understands the pressure of playing for India. It will be very difficult to be with a person who has her own career because someone has to make sacrifices for the family and house.

For me to stay healthy in a relationship, the individuals have to nurture themselves.

I don't want to have a relationship with someone if I'm not going to work with them.

People mistake the thrill of early love for a relationship that is capable of braving storms and get disillusioned when they find out that their partner isn't perfect.

Romantic love is a trap designed to get two people to overlook each other's faults long enough to get some babymaking done. It generally only lasts for a few years at most.

Marriage should never become an adjustment or a compromise. Both the partners should be equally happy and willing to invest their love, care, and respect in the relationship - only then it works.

People get married for a wide array of reasons and have all sorts of expectations of how marriage will change the relationship. And while it's true that turning the person you're dating into a legal partner does affect certain things, those who expect marriage to be a cure-all for all your relationship woes are sorely mistaken.