Anthony de Mello Quotes

Every generation lives with illusions.

You have to start knowing yourself so well that you begin to know other people. A piece of us is in every person we can ever meet.

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.

We suffer primarily not from our vices or our weaknesses, but from our illusions. We are haunted, not by reality, but by those images we have put in their place.

I just think the more we're observed by other people, the less we can observe them in order to play them and find their true condition.

Out: Reading is fundamental. In: Feeling is fundamental.

Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.

A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?

I'm just trying to get rid of all the mystery surrounding me and let people see what I'm thinking. So they can understand me and stop assuming things about me.

I'm just writing about people. People are dark and complicated. I'm trying to tell the truth; that's all that I do.

Truth is always a delusion.

Don't get a movie confused with real life. I'm a well-rounded human being like everyone else.

I'm looking for the truth. The audience doesn't come to see you, they come to see themselves.

Like most people, what I find irritating in others are my own faults.

You must look into people as well as at them.

Give yourself a healthy bit of distance between your fame and reality because they are two different things.

One of the illusions that we live by is that we can really know anybody else, and we're often surprised by traits in people that we thought we knew very well. The struggle to overcome loneliness, which is sort of our universal burden, leads us to leap to conclusions about who other people are.

As I grow older, I realise that just because I'm so obsessed with the truth, it doesn't mean that everyone else in my life is equally comfortable with it.

It's critical to be able to see things in other people that sometimes they don't see in themselves.

I've learnt to not look that deeply into what people say as it's mostly a reflection of themselves.

Life's harsh. You can't escape what you are and what you project.

Any honest inquiry into the reality of nature also yields insights about ourselves.

We are here to love, not to judge. I'd been blaming and raging. I certainly wasn't loving my daughter that afternoon as God loves me. God's love doesn't insist on perfection or even good common sense. Why then should I demand more of those I love? With this tiny change in perspective I began to see the need for correction wasn't in my daughter, but in me.

Everywhere I go, I hear 'Welcome back.' But everywhere I have been, I have always been with myself. I'm with myself now more than ever. It's funny people say 'Welcome back' when I haven't gone anywhere.

Always search for your innermost nature in those you are with, as rose oil imbibes from roses.