Frederick Buechner Quotes

It's hard because people think they have something to lose and the truth is they have everything to gain in trying to love somebody.

When you're in the position I'm in, you have two options: you can either shut yourself off from everybody, from the world, and not live a full life. Or you welcome everybody into your life and occasionally somebody will try to take advantage. And I'd much rather be that person who lets people in.

I'd rather trust nine people and have the 10th one stab me in the back. I'd take that fall in order to have those nine friendships or working relationships instead of having none. That's not living.

Lifting our cup means sharing our life so we can celebrate it. When we truly believe we are called to lay down our lives for our friends, we must dare to take the risk to let others know what we are living.

But I think if it's the right person, you wouldn't have to work so hard at intimacy. I think—hope—it would just happen naturally. Otherwise, opening up to the wrong person..." I made a face. "Like putting ammo in their hands.

I'm ... incredibly open with my mates. Or even people I just meet.

I always say you have to be willing to get your heart broken.

I like, though, that people have a hunger to connect with other people. They're desperate to know that you're not lying to them or misleading them.

I'm in love with love, so I'm always taking risks! I think it's part of love, taking risks.

What is a friend? I will tell you... it is someone with whom you dare to be yourself.

It's a very intimate thing to invite someone into your home; there's a lot of trust involved.

If you want to have a relationship, at some point you have to let yourself get caught. That's what I did. I got caught.

I mean, I come from a hippie mentality where I just think to know someone, you need to look into their eyes. Eyes are so important. Until they start melon-balling eyes out, I won't be able to get to know someone another way.

I think part of what makes someone a great actor is being able to walk into a situation emotionally available and open, and have all your guards down, and just have that level of trust and security in yourself to know that you could walk out on that limb with someone else and be safe.

I'm pretty intense when it comes to relationships, platonic ones as well. If I feel a connection with someone, I'm willing to go there.

We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.

The way I become friends with somebody is a slow process. You can't just spill your guts and tell them everything about yourself and expect them to listen and understand you because you don't know them. It's the same thing with a relationship.

I take time to get close to, and I don't immediately throw my arms round someone.

It's a very brave thing to fall in love. You have to be willing to trust somebody else with your whole being, and that's very difficult, really difficult and very brave.

It takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else.

You're gonna meet tons of different people throughout your life, and it's totally worth it to stick your neck out a little bit if you like someone. Even when you get shot down, it seems really devastating, but it's not in the long run.

I'm constantly astounded by the way people talk so openly to someone they don't know. They clarify in their own minds what is important to them, discover another person has similar problems, and create trust and even a friendship.

If you want to have a relationship, at some point you have to let yourself get caught.

When you are open about your things, people feel more able to talk to you. I think that's a nice thing, because people get help and don't feel so isolated.

It's always a leap of faith when you get involved with somebody.