Judith Martin Quotes

Women don't like advice. They don't want you to fix their problems, they just want you to listen.

Sometimes people just need to feel heard, and being an actor has taught me to really listen.

Be a good listener...It makes the person who's speaking to you feel loved,cared for and worthy of being heard.

When someone really hears you without passing judgment on you, without trying to take responsibility for you, without trying to mold you, it feels damn good. . . . When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and to go on. It is astonishing how elements which seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens. How confusions which seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard.

You can win more friends with your ears than with your mouth. People who feel like they're being listened to feel accepted and appreciated. They feel like they're being taken seriously and what they say really matters.

There are many benefits to this process of listening. The first is that good listeners are created as people feel listened to. Listening is a reciprocal process - we become more attentive to others if they have attended to us.

I get a guest on the air, and they're weird or strange, and I help them tell their story. I don't laugh at them. I listen.

I'm a pretty good listener.

Sometimes, the best thing to do is just to sit down and listen to another person's experience and listen how they express themselves and want to be seen by others.

During the writing of all of my books, I've learned that, most of all, people want to know that someone is listening and - this is the tricky part - remembering.

I wanted to be listened to. I don't know if they were or not, though.

It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens, how confusions that seem irremediable turn into relatively clear flowing streams when one is heard.

What people really want, no matter who they are, is someone to listen to them. ... people have a lot on their minds, however trivial, and if you're simply willing to sit there like a sack of dirt and let them yammer, they will tell it to you.

Listening with undivided attention and unconditional love Is perhaps the greatest gift we can extend to others.

It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens.

Here's the thing: When you become brilliant at listening, people feel that you care about them. When they feel you care about them, they begin to care about you. And when people care about you, your success becomes a part of how they define their success.

Good listeners have a huge advantage. For one, when they engage in conversation, they make people 'feel' heard. They 'feel' that someone really understands their wants, needs and desires. And for good reason; a good listener does care to understand.

If there's one thing I've learned about women, which I try to pass on to my boys, it's listening. Listen to the other side of the story first.

Silence may be golden, but can you think of a better way to entertain someone than to listen to him?

What I do for a living is listen.

'Talk to me,' it's what you say to someone to let them know you're there. Just three simple words. But saying them out loud could help save a life.

We try to keep a good line of communication open with our children. It's not always about trying to just teach them every moment, but it's about listening to them and trying to understand them and gain that sense of communication so when they need to talk to someone, they know that we're there.

When you least expect it, someone may actually listen to what you have to say.

I don't know, but I think kids just want to be listened to, so I want to make sure I do that.

There is nothing wrong with listening. You can listen to people; you can hear people's concerns. You can keep an open mind and still be perfectly strong.