Gerry Spence Quotes

My body Healed quickly. But the wound to my psyche was deep. Wide. First aid, too little, too late, left me hemorrhaging inside, the blood unstaunched by psychological bandage or love's healing magic. Eventually it scabbed over, a thick, ugly welt of memory. I work to conceal it, but no matter how hard I try, once in a while something makes me pick at it until the scarring bleeds. In my arms, Ashante cries, innocence ripped apart by circumstance. Bloodied by inhuman will. Time will prove a tourniquet. But she will always be at risk of infection. (124)

It is just as impossible to help reform by conciliating prejudice as it is by buying votes.

I have some scars... lots of internal ones. But they're all scabbed over.

Prejudice is ignorance.

The finding of arguments for a conclusion given in advance is not philosophy, but special pleading

When the wound/ No longer hurts/ The scar does.

One writes of scars healed, a loose parallel to the pathology of the skin, but there is no such thing in the life of an individual.

According to Madam Pomfrey, thoughts could leave deeper scars than almost anything else.

All of us heal in time. The strongest are born again. We only keep the scars we choose to keep.

A decade of cutting away dead flesh, cauterizing old scars ripped open over and over and still it is not enough.

I can heal the scars on your body, but I can’t heal the scars of the soul. Not yours, not mine. You have to learn to live with them. You have to choose to live beyond them

...Her entire life has been devoted to healing the deepest, most invasive unseeable scar that one can ever have.

Pain that is not transformed is transmitted.

Time may heal all wounds, but it does not erase the scars.

That which is denied cannot be healed.

Maybe forgiveness is just the continual pushing aside of bitter memories, until time dulls the hurt and anger, and the wrong is forgotten.

...maybe it was better to break a man's leg than to break his heart.

If you do not for give you actually are tying yourself to the perpetrator, that you are going to live your life as a victim. And you won't experience a liberation that comes from forgiving.

When I was first going through my separation, someone said to me, 'It will take you half as long as you were in the relationship before you'll feel better.' And I wanted to knock them out cold across the table. Because, of course, I was in agony. And the last thing I wanted to think was that I was going to stay that way for a long time.

You don't know how to talk to people you don't like. Don't love, really. You can't live in the world with such strong likes and dislikes.

Forgiveness is the most effective way of dealing with arguments; altruism and forgiveness bring humanity together so that no conflict, however serious, will go beyond the bounds of what is truly human.

Time heals all wounds. And if it doesn't, you name them something other than wounds and agree to let them stay.

The difference between the truth and a lie is that both of them can hurt, but only one will take the time to heal you afterward.

Forgiveness is something that we are often asked to grant and very few of us ever have the roadmap of how to get from the pain that we have experienced to being able to forgive someone.

My relationship with my mom has really evolved since The Hills. We had a very hard time getting through that, and I didn't talk to her for almost two years, but since then we have learned to get over the past and move forward.