Iris Murdoch Quotes

It's okay not to be okay... Sometimes it's hard, to follow your heart but tears don't mean you're losing, everybody's bruising, there's nothing wrong with who you are.

Learning to love back is the hardest part of being alive.

I am human, and, yeah, I have very bad days.

If we begin to get in touch with whatever we feel with some kind of kindness, our protective shells will melt, and we'll find that more areas of our lives are workable. AS we learn to have compassion for ourselves, the circle of compassion for others-what and whom we can work with, and how-becomes wider.

Love inevitably forces one to look at their own life, and that's either a good thing or a bad thing depending on what the person has going on or what they've experienced. The search for love and heartbreak is a fairly university condition and everybody will take away from it something different.

I've spent a lot of time in my life dedicating myself to love or the pursuit of love or the understanding of love... I’ve stopped believing in happy endings. I’ve started believing in good days.

Love never hurts anybody. And if you feel you have been hurt by love, it is something else in you, not your loving quality that feels hurt.

There's a lot of me in it. But the character is more egotistical. I'm also egotistical, but not the way the character is. This guy is successful, he has everything, but his wife has left him. The most important value - love - is missing. What is wrong with this institution called 'marriage'? What is wrong with this institution called 'the pursuit of happiness'?

Testing ourselves over and again, learning love and love and LOVE!

We can't be as good as we'd want to, so the question then becomes, how do we cope with our own badness?

I think it's safe to say that each of us has at least one issue we are passionate about and struggle with, issues that robs us of our peace, our joy and our ability to experience love.

If you wish to be loved, show more of your faults than your virtues.

Our pain is a part of who we authentically are.

I'm really out of touch with myself emotionally. I've always had a hard time talking about how I feel.

When you love and accept yourself, when you know who really cares about you, and when you learn from your mistakes, then you stop caring about what people who don't know you think.

Being married to a psychologist, I realize that I learn more from imperfections.

I have my flaws and my issues, past and present and who knows what will happen in the future. I want people to know I'm vulnerable too and each one of us is.

Now I look back and think if I'd spent more time enjoying myself instead of crying into my pillow over men, my 20s would have been fabulous!

I was raised in an atmosphere of 'everything's fine.' But as I got older, I was like, 'Well no, everything's not fine. There is stuff that's sad.' I am a really sensitive person. I think I am too sensitive sometimes.

One of the biggest things I learned was that it's OK to be nervous and admit that you're having a hard time.

I began to use my sensitivity. And I realized I wasn't weird because I cried a lot.

They say you'll be blooming when you're in love; I agree, but what is important to bloom is taking care of yourself, too.

I don't want to sound self-righteous, and I don't want to act like I have it all put together.

People have weaknesses, we should accept it.

I have had to learn and to understand that sometimes I can't be always be at my best.