Gary Zukav Quotes

Fortunately analysis is not the only way to resolve inner conflicts. Life itself still remains a very effective therapist.

Don't take anything personally. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. Their point of view and opinion come from all the programming they received growing up. When you take things personally, you feel offended and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflict. You make something big out of something so little because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong.

Resolution is struggle. Resolution is ego. Resolution is saying, "I cannot live spontaneously. ".

When you are in relationship with people, in a thousand and one ways you are provoked, challenged, seduced. Again and again you come to know your pitfalls, your limitations, your anger, your lust, your possessiveness, your jealousy, your sadness, your happiness all moods come and go, you are constantly in a turmoil. But this is the only way to know who you are.

Most of your suffering comes from the lack of understanding of yourself and others.

Remember that no relationship is a total waste of time. You can always learn something about yourself.

But it took me awhile to figure out Christine at this age, you know.

I wasn't smart enough to read relationship books when I was coming up. I learned everything the hard way.

Reading and discovering fiction has taught me how to empathise, understand falling in love and all those complex relationships that people have to deal with.

I really do feel like I know myself, and I'm so happy to be by myself and I'm so happy to be with other people; I just know myself really, really well, and I think that is an amazing thing. I think a lot of people don't know themselves that well.

I don't think any one person is the cause of all of someone else's problems.

I'm just learning who I am and how relationships work and how to make them function. No different from anyone else.

I am a woman in process. I'm just trying like everybody else. I try to take every conflict, every experience, and learn from it. Life is never dull.

It took me to be 33 to start to know how to fight.

To be honest, relationships with the opposite sex are the most challenging things I've done. You lose your compass, gravity changes, you don't know what's up or down, you're trying to figure it out. You're trying to make everybody happy, including yourself, and it's just... it's humbled me.

Whenever I'm talking about relationships, it's always at least three things. It's my relationship with myself, my relationship with God or an idea, and then usually somebody, a real person. I try to operate on all three levels at the same time, and it's difficult, but I never want to have a break-up song or something like that.

If I'm not fighting for a good reason, then your personal life starts to get messy, and it's like, 'What am I doing this for?'

It is very important to have deep friendships of the opposite sex to learn so much about yourself and what you need as a human.

We are never so much disposed to quarrel with others as when we are dissatisfied with ourselves.

There is no such thing as living alone, for all living is relationship; but to live without direct relationship demands high intelligence, a swifter and greater awareness for self-discovery.

Non-reaction to the ego in others is one of the most effective ways not only of going beyond ego in yourself but also of dissolving the collective human ego.

When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself.

I think, over the course of one's lifetime, there are always certain core elements that are intriguing to you, and you take different looks as you get older, but it's something you keep coming back to. I've always been interested in the relationship between vulnerability and control. That's something that's a big thing for people, whoever they are, no matter how old you are. I think at different times, you're more aware than others.

Self-knowledge involves relationship. To know oneself is to study one self in action with another person. Relationship is a process of self evaluation and self revelation. Relationship is the mirror in which you discover yourself - to be is to be related.

Lovers are not snails; they don't have to protrude from their shells and meet each other halfway. Meet me within your own self.